Thoughts on Anger

~ ANGER ~
200 years ago Thomas Jefferson wrote, “When angry, count to 10 before you speak.  If very angry, a hundred.” 
100 years ago Mark Twain wrote, “When angry count to four.  When very angry, swear.”
Most of our movies today,  “When angry, blow them away.”
Anger is expressed in our relationships in a lot of different ways. 

In anger in relationships, we have one of two strategies. 

#1.  skunks

#2.  turtles. 

A skunk is the one who, when an argument occurs, you sort of spew.  Everybody in the room knows how you feel.  You stink up the place, and you want everybody to know. 

Then there are turtles.  When the bad times come, your head goes right back in the shell. 

Neither of those ways work. 

God has a better way to deal with the anger we sometimes feel in our lives.

ANGER in itself is NOT a sin. 

It is what you DO with the anger that becomes problematic. ANGER is a God given warning light that tells you when something is wrong

We get angry when:                   unaccepted, unappreciated, unsupported, unprotected, uncertain

6 “C”s of Fair Fighting

(1)  NEVER Compare

(2)  NEVER Condemn
(3)  NEVER Command
(4)  NEVER Challenge
(5)  NEVER Condescend
(6)  NEVER Contradict

Anger moves us in 1 of 3 ways: 

(1)    AGAINST people in anger
(2)    AWAY from people in fear 
(3)    WITH people in love